A date for the diary
The hearing takes place at a court in a city which is not where we live, but not too far . . . bizarrely we were advised to use a court away from home so as to throw the birth parents off the scent, so to speak. Any documentation sent to the birth parents from the court is anonymised, so that we are not traceable. All a bit cloak and dagger, but bearing in mind their lifestyles, it's probably just as well.
R has suggested that we pretty much keep it to ourselves until it is done and dusted. Really, with all the preparation and the numerous meetings we have had with SWs, I genuinely do not believe a problem will arise at this stage. But I do agree with R - let's not set ourselves up here. (Like we aren't already committed!) Can you imagine - to make a decision against us would involve Theo in unimaginable pain - quite apart from any consideration of us. No, no, no, no, no.
And this month I have also elected to do the 'letterbox' letter, which goes via social services to members of Theo's family. I will write a letter to his half brother (age 11), half sister (age 3) and aunt (mother's half sister) who have all expressed a wish to hear news of him on an annual basis. I am sure it will get easier, but they are not easy letters to write.
Just at the moment I am tired, and being perfect mum is hard; I know I don't have to be, but I want to so desperately. He deserves it.
2 Comments:
Will be keeping fingers crossed here that all goes smoothly.
And, the fact that you have the desire to be the perfect mum for him, makes you the perfect mum for him already! :-)
I do agree that the letters are tough to write in so many ways.
By beagle, at 12:30 am
Oh, dear CC, that date must be a bit burden on your minds... I am hoping that the time until then passes quickly, and that all goes without a hitch, as expected. For Theo's sake and yours. Thinking of you!
By Anonymous, at 12:02 pm
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